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Old 09-06-2008, 07:24 PM   #1
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CrossFit putting a strain on relationships?

Any Crossfitter's out there experiencing friction in their relationships due to there change in lifestyle? Specifically spouses that don't appreciate their new lifestlye or dietary changes?
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Old 09-06-2008, 08:56 PM   #2
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Re: CrossFit putting a strain on relationships?

No friction....and a 'more intense' sex life!
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Old 09-07-2008, 12:24 AM   #3
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Re: CrossFit putting a strain on relationships?

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No friction....and a 'more intense' sex life!
Just don't try to do it "For Time" lol
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Old 09-07-2008, 06:08 AM   #4
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Re: CrossFit putting a strain on relationships?

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Just don't try to do it "For Time" lol

Yeah, and I don't recommend tabata style either. No wait, I take that back!

Sorry, couldn't help it..I know your trying to get a serious answer here...yes, definetly WAS a challenge in my house. I'm now past the stage of trying to recruit my hubby into CF workouts. With the eating he doesn't have a choice when I do the cooking and he does appreciate or at least understands the importance of healthy eating. Yeah, it would be so GREAT if we could workout together but begging does not work, it just annoys.
Luckily for me, he completely respects what I do so it hasn't become a problem.
The key word is to respect eachothers individuality and not resent or expect the other to change. I do think couples have a responsibility to eachother (and themselves) to try to NOT let themselves 'go' as time goes on.
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Old 09-07-2008, 06:13 AM   #5
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Re: CrossFit putting a strain on relationships?

Gina,

Thank you for your response. That was very well said. Complacency of any kind is never good in relationships. At the same time you have to respect each other as individuals. I'm trying very hard to not be too pushy on the whole Crossfit/Zone thing. I probably should try harder.

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Old 09-07-2008, 07:47 AM   #6
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Re: CrossFit putting a strain on relationships?

CrossFit is actually better, in many ways, than a spouse doing LSD training or Golf. What I mean is I used to be gone for 4-5 hours on a Sat/Sun morn for a long bike ride, back in the gym later in the afternoon for a 1 hour bodypart split routine. That was almost 25% of my weekend day.

Now... with CF one hour max in the gym 5 times a week is all.

Hey, CF beats golf, long distance running, and long distance cycling in terms of sheer time away from the family (and, ahem, better for you).

Re: nutrition and diet. I've given up trying to evangelize my wife about food. She sees/feels my body, knows what I am eating (and more importantly NOT eating), and so I'll throw an informational tidbit out there once and awhile. But when YOU have got unending energy and your SPOUSE feels tired and lethargic, at some point (you'd think) he/she would see the light. Not always. Sugar-addicts and Processed-food-addicts are tough to convert.
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Old 09-07-2008, 07:58 AM   #7
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Re: CrossFit putting a strain on relationships?

Sorry but no. My wife is on board. She is now eating better and CF has given her motivation to get in shape. She is out walking in the neighborhood as I am typing this. CF has changed my life in so many ways (all positive). I think the key is to try to include your spouse and others in your life. Good luck.

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Old 09-07-2008, 08:54 AM   #8
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Re: CrossFit putting a strain on relationships?

Not friction, but need for negotiation and consideration of each other.
Diet has been difficult because we each have different preferences and things that we need to avoid (him, dairy; me, gluten; I eat more meat and he eats more grains).
Other than that, I'm a moderate CF'er and so it's not like I won't go out and drink some in an evening; and he's definitely into health and wellness and so it's not like he's going to nag me to go grab something deep-fried with him (oh yeah, that's ME that likes that stuff LOL) - so we just accomodate each other - I work out in the morning and save the evening times; he helps me get out the door early and enjoys the results.
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Old 09-07-2008, 09:27 AM   #9
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Hey, CF beats golf, long distance running, and long distance cycling in terms of sheer time away from the family (and, ahem, better for you).
While the first part is true, the second part is only true in a purely academic sense. Cycling is far better for me than Crossfit in an emotional and mental sense because it offers what I need. CF does not give me what I need, so it is not better for me.

My cycling goals are always discussed prior to me starting a relationship. My goals are hugely important to me and require a large time expenditure that many women do not want to deal with.
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Old 09-07-2008, 10:02 AM   #10
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not just relationships as a couple but family too...

A friend's wife quickly realized how much more time she had with her children/family.

I forget the math she did. but basically it showed how many hours, weeks, months, etc she now had to spend with her family doing CF workouts instead of the "1 hour daily on a treadmill".

Plus pushing someone usually makes them push back or push away. Leaving an "open invite" for a loved one may take time but in the end works more times than not.
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