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Old 08-19-2009, 12:43 PM   #11
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Re: Who pays for the first date?

Yes Kara, if you offer to go Dutch we men interpret that as you don't want to feel pressure or any obligation to make-out with us and it also makes it less "date like."

Yea John, she says NOW that she would have paid! lol. I bet the conversation with her gf's after your lil' date would have went a lot differently if you had let her know you were down to pocket change!
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Old 08-19-2009, 12:53 PM   #12
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Re: Who pays for the first date?

I have so many more questions for the large male audience that in this forum, but I don't want them all perpetually linked to my name on the intertubes!

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Old 08-19-2009, 01:23 PM   #13
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Re: Who pays for the first date?

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There is no issue here, man pays.

Girls who suggest dutch don't like you.

A girl should at least pretend like she is willing to pay on or about the third date, the man should not accept.

I would let a girl pay on the 5th date if she brought it up.

If the man is 10 years or more older then the girl, she should never pay and he should just be happy to be there.

There ya' go.
Kara, listen to Brian. Everything is says are words of wisdom. *cough* no, seriously.

katherine is also right, though. If you asked, be prepared to pay...though the man should pounce on it.
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Old 08-19-2009, 01:25 PM   #14
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Kara, listen to Brian. Everything is says are words of wisdom. *cough* no, seriously.

katherine is also right, though. If you asked, be prepared to pay...though the man should pounce on it.

brian, i disagree with you on the bolded statement up there. i always offer.

...of course it wasn't until like 3 months ago that i've had very many men take me out, let alone pay for my meals...so maybe i'm doing it wrong.
In my opinion the difference comes when the offer is made. When the check is there and the woman asks let me help with that. I consider that exceptable and polite. But upon opening the door looking at each other and "Well this will be a dutch date" Kinda blows the chance at a second date.
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Old 08-19-2009, 01:26 PM   #15
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Re: Who pays for the first date?

kara...you should look up the match.com thread and peruse that. i have a ton of terrible dating stories linked perpetually to my name. it's awesome.

ask away!
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Old 08-19-2009, 01:27 PM   #16
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In my opinion the difference comes when the offer is made. When the check is there and the woman asks let me help with that. I consider that exceptable. But upon opening the door looking at each other and "Well this will be a dutch date" Kinda blows the chance at a second date.
ah, okay. that's what i do ^

good to know.
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Old 08-19-2009, 01:29 PM   #17
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Re: Who pays for the first date?

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kara...you should look up the match.com thread and peruse that. i have a ton of terrible dating stories linked perpetually to my name. it's awesome.

ask away!
I need to find this thread, my wife and I met on match.com so I wonder if my war/horror stories are similar to you all's.
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Old 08-19-2009, 01:31 PM   #18
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I need to find this thread, my wife and I met on match.com so I wonder if my war/horror stories are similar to you all's.
oh, it's pretty epic. 87 pages to slog through though: http://board.crossfit.com/showthread.php?t=41738 mostly sfw. jamie, frank and i got a little out of control a lot of the time.
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Old 08-19-2009, 01:33 PM   #19
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Re: Who pays for the first date?

As a pastor, I could write a book of "How NOT to meet your future spouse!!"

Men pays and if he doesn't or won't ladies, that tells you more than you know.

Lord, where to begin . . .
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Old 08-19-2009, 01:34 PM   #20
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Re: Who pays for the first date?

Alright, CHANGE in hypo:

I ask him out, and though we have not swapped W2s we can both guess that he makes 3-4 times more than I do. Let's also say he's at least five years older. Who pays now?
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