Re: girlfriend help
I've talked to a lot of women who have a fear of training with weights. They have teh misconception that they will get big traps and start looking like a man. Somewhere along the way she has probobly seen a picture of some chemical freak of a person that used to look like a woman.
Just educate and encourage her. I would suggest starting her with something very basic like simplefit (simplefit.org)