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Jamila Bey 02-02-2006 02:49 AM

Anyone have a solution:

Going out with hubby to another couple's home. They're cooking (insisting that we don't "bring a thing!") and I'm looking forward to it.

How do I say, "Oh dear friends, I'm so glad to be here with you. While I know this meal was lovingly prepared, I'm not eating red meat, I'll need to know the origin of the fish and/or chicken you serve, and please, no grains. Perhaps two or three tablespoons of brown rice- but no other grain is acceptable. Oh yes- no added sugars for me either and I'll be skipping dessert. And I'm lactose intolerant and won't be eating cheese."

And then the next day will be the big super bowl party where MY STILLERS ARE GOING TO MARCH ON TO VICTORY!

Who knew the kool-aid made dining this hard!

Anthony Bainbridge 02-02-2006 03:50 AM

One meal won't make or break your overall plan. If you don't eat meat, I think that's common enough that they won't be insulted.

Sean Harrison 02-02-2006 06:04 AM

You should absolutely eat what they offer. I can understand refusing milk or red meat, but you won't look health conscious if you go paleo or whatnot on'll probably just look weird.
What's the kool-aid?

Garrett Smith 02-02-2006 06:50 AM

Hey Jamila.
My advice--don't worry about the origin of the fish/chicken for the one evening and bring a snack with you (ie. jerky and an apple) if you feel it's necessary. I just tell people (or my wife beats me to it) that I'm on a strict diet. If they need me to break it down, I tell them the magic five words: meat, veggies, fruit, nuts, seeds.

Dr. G

Jason Steele 02-02-2006 08:20 AM

I agree with Garrett, and Jamila, eat whatever you want during the Superbowl! I see it as a reward for being a Steeler fan during the Kordell Stewart years...

Mark Gebhard 02-02-2006 09:43 AM

In a situation like this I would certainly just eat what they serve, but when does it become acceptable to make special food requests? Often for larger gatherings, invitations specifically ask about dietary needs, e.g. vegetarianism. Since a lot of people are vegetarian for real or imagined health reasons, isn't it just as acceptable for me to request no grains (for Paleo reasons, or maybe I could be celiac) or no sugars (I could be diabetic)? I'm curious what you guys think.

Jamila Bey 02-02-2006 02:40 PM

(hiding my face in utter shame)

What is this Kor-dell of which you speak?

So, I'll go be proper little "eat like those around me- within reason" and I'll live to do it all again the next day!

Garrett Smith 02-02-2006 05:24 PM

It should be perfectly acceptable for one's own health concerns to say that they don't eat certain foods.

The way I work it is if nothing is being served that I choose to eat, then I either: 1) eat a good meal before I go and/or bring a snack, 2) simply go without, or 3) bring my own darn food!

I figure I get enough nutrition (ie. vitamins, minerals, etc.) that a little calorie (and insulin!) deprivation is good for me in the long run.

To be honest, my recently improved self discipline in the food arena only came after my own physician told me I should start avoiding certain foods. Up until that point (mid-December 05), I could cheat and justify with the best of them (even though I likely did it less often).

For me, once I was told that my particular food sensitivities (ie. refined sugar, gluten, nightshade veggies, and dairy) could be and most likely were major conspirators in my musculoskeletal pain, I got with the program quick. Now I care less what others think of my food requests/requirements.

It would be like doing CF in a regular gym. Yes, many people there think might think a CFer is a little strange, however, that CFer knows that they are doing something that is good for them in the end, regardless of others' opinion.

Keep on keepin' on.

Dr. G

Nikki Young 02-05-2006 02:55 PM

I think if you're allergic to a food it makes it easier to turn down certain food without it being much of an insult to the host/s. I know people who are allergic to foods, dairy and gluten (to name a few), the foods that they can actually eat are very limited, especially when going out.

I think if your SUPER strict about not even having one/two meals a week where you can just eat whatever, then just limit the certain foods that you eat. You don't have to go the ho-down on everything, you don't have to eat the potato salad or drink 5 glasses of wine. Just keep it controlled.

Peter Queen 02-06-2006 12:54 PM

My wife usually eats what she recognizes,which turns out to be very little(she's very picky), then satifies her hunger later at home or we hit a drive through on the way back home. As for me I abide by the motto: " When in Rome...." within reason of course. Usually if it's edible, I roll up my sleeves and dive in and Heaven helps those who gets their fingers in my way.

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