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Old 08-14-2009, 11:03 AM   #1
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Do you have trouble finding sympathy?

For someone who won't do what it takes to better themselves?

I had someone today ask me what the new workout program I was doing was. So I sent her a video.

She responds with "Never in a million years could I ever do that."

My response was, "I know."

And she got angry with me and called me another word for donkey lol.

But seriously why should I constantly try to tell someone they could do something better for themselves if they aren't going to even give anything a shot?
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Old 08-14-2009, 11:06 AM   #2
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Re: Do you have trouble finding sympathy?

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For someone who won't do what it takes to better themselves?

I had someone today ask me what the new workout program I was doing was. So I sent her a video.

She responds with "Never in a million years could I ever do that."

My response was, "I know, me either. But, I'm working at it really hard - come with me sometime soon. Let's do this together?"
Fixed to take all of the donkey-hole-ish-ness out of your response.
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Old 08-14-2009, 11:09 AM   #3
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Re: Do you have trouble finding sympathy?

i do have this problem...not quite like your scenario...but my biggest pet peeve in life is whining or complaining. it just makes me furious (good thing i'm not a parent!)
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Re: Do you have trouble finding sympathy?

I guess that I should have added on the fact that this person has already tried working out with me before and pretty much gave up after 3 weeks. And this was before I started CrossFit.

I tried to put her through light versions of some of our MMA workouts and she would always quit and whine about it.
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Old 08-14-2009, 11:11 AM   #5
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i do have this problem...not quite like your scenario...but my biggest pet peeve in life is whining or complaining. it just makes me furious (good thing i'm not a parent!)
Well at least I'm not alone.

I can deal with my kids whining but I can't deal with grown adults.
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Old 08-14-2009, 11:12 AM   #6
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Fixed to take all of the donkey-hole-ish-ness out of your response.
And yes that would be the way I would talk to someone that was interested in actually helping themselves.
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Old 08-14-2009, 11:48 AM   #7
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Re: Do you have trouble finding sympathy?

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But seriously why should I constantly try to tell someone they could do something better for themselves if they aren't going to even give anything a shot?
You're not doing that at all, you're insulting her and then feigning surprise when she reacts defensively, which makes the chances of her ever actually listening to you in the future pretty minimal.

You don't need to look down on people who aren't at the same point of physical progress as you. You can't just insult someone and expect that they'll suddenly bootstrap themselves out of lifelong habits. If you're *seriously* interested in helping someone you'll serve as a positive example instead of passing judgment, and pay attention to them so you can learn the best way to get them to willingly try something that's probably awfully daunting.
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Re: Do you have trouble finding sympathy?

Alright let me clear something up. Was just a little frustrated when the event went down while typing this thread.

Generally I do care about people and will not insult them if they want to help themselves. I'm all for everyone wanting to do something to better themselves.

But in the case that I'm making it's the people who complain about being overweight or out of shape. But aren't willing to do anything about it.

How do you find sympathy for them? When they ask you how you did it and you give them the honest answer that they don't want to hear. And sit there and say I can't do it. I don't have the time to do it.

I can't find it in my heart to want to take the time to try to change the person's mind.
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Re: Do you have trouble finding sympathy?

I know it's wrong. I want to know if and how some of you can do it.
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Old 08-14-2009, 12:19 PM   #10
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How do you find sympathy for them? When they ask you how you did it and you give them the honest answer that they don't want to hear. And sit there and say I can't do it. I don't have the time to do it.
Q: "I don't have time."
A: "My day only has 24 hours in it, same as yours. What do you want to make time for?"

Q: "I could never do that."
A: "Neither could I when I started."

Q: "I'm too fat/slow/clumsy/out of shape blah blah blah."
A: "And that won't change unless you start somewhere."

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